Home For the Holidays

By: Gingerbread

Hanukkah,   Christmas,   Kwanzaa,   and   so   many   more.   Throughout   the   whole   month   of December,   and   fall   and   winter   as   a   whole,   there   are   so   many   holidays   to   celebrate.   With   this, comes   many   opportunities   to   visit   and   celebrate   with   family.   While   your   immediate   family   may be   one   thing,   your   extended   family   is   on   a   whole   nother   level.
For   me,   visiting   extended   family   is   full   of   ups   and   downs.   It’s   a   great   time   to   catch   up with   relatives   you   haven’t   seen   for   a   while,   eat   delicious   food,   and   get   away   from   work   or school.   Still   this   is   a   time   for   lectures   from   your   aunts   and   uncles,   dating   advice   from   your   very single   cousins,   and   out   of   context   questions   from   your   grandparents.   This   back   and   forth rollercoaster   can   be   confusing,   but   you   have   to   remember   your   mission;   to   stay   centered   in   the spinning   room   that   is   the   holidays.
First   of   all,   a   key   tip   is   to   be   conversational   and   engage.   Although   daunting   and   boring,   it is   important   to   make   a   good   impression   on   relatives   who   you   might   not   see   all   the   time,   for   if you   are   in   a   bad   mood,   they’ll   love   for   you   will   always   be   tinted   with   the   fact   that   you   didn’t   hang out   with   your   precious   little   cousin   like   a   mature   adult.   Okay,   that   might   be   a   stretch,   but   it   still   is important   to   be   kind   and   generous   to   all,   even   if   it   means   being   drilled   about   your   love   life   in front   of   your   parents.
Another   important   rule   is   to   compliment   the   chef.   While   this   is   important   at   all   times,   it   is crucial   during   the   holiday   season.   Cooking   full   meals   are   10   times   harder   than   ever,   for   you have   to   cook   for   long   hours,   making   things   that   everyone   can   eat.   In   my   family,   we   have   to   have vegetarian,   gluten   free,   and   dairy   free   options.   Complimenting   someone   after   all   their   hard   work can   release   any   tensions   the   struggle   of   cooking   can   build.   This   is   also   just   a   polite   way   to   thank someone   for   the   delicious   food.
My   last   tip   would   be   to   avoid   conflict   and   arguments   with   family.   No   one   likes   to   spend the   holiday   season   screaming   at   a   loved   one,   so   why   not   avoid   it   as   a   whole?   My   advice   for   this is   to   avoid   talking   politics   with   someone   who   has   different   views.   While   it   is   very   important   to have   predictive   conversations   with   those   who   you   disagree   with,   the   holidays   are   not   a   great time   for   that,   especially   when   these   days   a   conversation   can   turn   into   a   screaming   match   in   the blink   of   an   eye.   Another   tip   I   use   is   to   remember   that   you   can’t   have   everything   the   exact   way you   want   it.   With   so   many   opinions   on   how   to   plan   out   your   holiday,   it   is   important   to compromise.   Don’t   get   stuck   on   the   small   details,   and   pick   your   battles   and   what   you   really   care most   about.
Now   that   you   have   my   advice,   remember   to   have   fun   and   enjoy   this   holiday   season.   Be happy   that   you   get   to   spend   time   with   friends   and   family   and   maybe   get   out   of   a   little   work. Happy   holidays   from   Flair   and   Keleanor’s   newest   writer,   gingerbread.

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